Four small points -- I'm a guy, have tried to learn as a guy, and am aiming my remarks at guys:
(1) There is a cliche with a lot of truth: "Boys pay attention to things, and girls, to people." So, tough for a boy to be as good with people as a girl, and a boy, man, should not be ashamed or discouraged because they are less good with people than the girls, women. But, to do better, to some extent can borrow from the girls -- a LOT of girls work REALLY hard to be good with people, so to borrow a little just work a little at being good with people: Pay attention to people, notice how they act, what they seem to be thinking, feeling, etc. E.g., notice their emotional state and how your behavior seems to be affecting that.
Uh, here I say girl because this problem of doing well with people has its roots back at least to middle school where the females were girls or maybe young women but not yet women (although, if we are to understand people, we should notice, at least admit, that Mother Nature regards a lot of middle school girls as already 100% women, and that fact likely has a lot of the girls already taking adult life really seriously because they understand that Mother Nature regards them as 100% women).
(2) If person X is afraid, of nearly anything, rejection, money, etc., people can feel that, and it can make them feel uncomfortable and reject X (flat statement about why children are rejected by their peers, from T. Berry Brazelton). Soooo, try to get fears under control.
(3) People can respect strength, accomplishment, hard work. E.g., a few times I was in some tough competitions and totally blew away all the competitors. People didn't let me know right away, but later I discovered, by accident, that some people had a lot of respect for me for that.
(4) To build on (3), it can be easy to get treated badly, even really badly, due to people being jealous of where you won. But the upside of that is, some of the people not treating you badly are respecting you and ready to be nice to you.
(1) There is a cliche with a lot of truth: "Boys pay attention to things, and girls, to people." So, tough for a boy to be as good with people as a girl, and a boy, man, should not be ashamed or discouraged because they are less good with people than the girls, women. But, to do better, to some extent can borrow from the girls -- a LOT of girls work REALLY hard to be good with people, so to borrow a little just work a little at being good with people: Pay attention to people, notice how they act, what they seem to be thinking, feeling, etc. E.g., notice their emotional state and how your behavior seems to be affecting that.
Uh, here I say girl because this problem of doing well with people has its roots back at least to middle school where the females were girls or maybe young women but not yet women (although, if we are to understand people, we should notice, at least admit, that Mother Nature regards a lot of middle school girls as already 100% women, and that fact likely has a lot of the girls already taking adult life really seriously because they understand that Mother Nature regards them as 100% women).
(2) If person X is afraid, of nearly anything, rejection, money, etc., people can feel that, and it can make them feel uncomfortable and reject X (flat statement about why children are rejected by their peers, from T. Berry Brazelton). Soooo, try to get fears under control.
(3) People can respect strength, accomplishment, hard work. E.g., a few times I was in some tough competitions and totally blew away all the competitors. People didn't let me know right away, but later I discovered, by accident, that some people had a lot of respect for me for that.
(4) To build on (3), it can be easy to get treated badly, even really badly, due to people being jealous of where you won. But the upside of that is, some of the people not treating you badly are respecting you and ready to be nice to you.