>Take some comfort in knowing that it will probably pass with time.
I mean, it does pass with time, but it's not like you magically become less shy. For me it was the transition to college. I no longer had parents to order food for me, professors won't go out of their way to make sure you get homework in on time or even show up for class, schools don't just make up social events for you, etc. You find you gotta literally step outside your comfort zone because society very much does not care about you cooping up in your apartment building 24/7 (as long as you're paying).
And yes, to some extent it does help that the world metaphorically gets bigger in adult hood. When your social circle is a few hundreds people in grade school, their perception of you matters a lot. When in college it expands to thousands of people, 99% of which you'll never converse with, and larger still in society where you ironically feel more lonely than ever because very few people will come up to you to chat.
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I agree it will pass in time, but it's not just something you grow out of. You either get plenty of practive with adulthood, or you end up as a recluse that is deemed incompatitble with society. Fight or flight. If they didn't get that same practice I did, they have to undergo it now (or perhaps consult a therapist if the anxiety is truly that severe. Unlikely, but it very well could require some clinical solutions.).
I mean, it does pass with time, but it's not like you magically become less shy. For me it was the transition to college. I no longer had parents to order food for me, professors won't go out of their way to make sure you get homework in on time or even show up for class, schools don't just make up social events for you, etc. You find you gotta literally step outside your comfort zone because society very much does not care about you cooping up in your apartment building 24/7 (as long as you're paying).
And yes, to some extent it does help that the world metaphorically gets bigger in adult hood. When your social circle is a few hundreds people in grade school, their perception of you matters a lot. When in college it expands to thousands of people, 99% of which you'll never converse with, and larger still in society where you ironically feel more lonely than ever because very few people will come up to you to chat.
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I agree it will pass in time, but it's not just something you grow out of. You either get plenty of practive with adulthood, or you end up as a recluse that is deemed incompatitble with society. Fight or flight. If they didn't get that same practice I did, they have to undergo it now (or perhaps consult a therapist if the anxiety is truly that severe. Unlikely, but it very well could require some clinical solutions.).
It gets easier: https://youtu.be/S-ixV6nV0HU?t=22