> In the months after my son’s birth, I suddenly had no free time.
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> I took a breath and realized the reason I had “no free time” was that several days each week, I’d take long walks downtown to enjoy an outdoor brunch with my wife and son. Or we’d host visitors from out of town to meet the baby. I had to remind myself that these were all good things that I liked doing, and I was still in control of my time should I decide to resume working.
When I had my first kid, I'd take her out for walks, or we'd go to the zoo, and then my "free time" (aka time by myself) felt like it was slim to none. As with you, I went through a similar sort of realisation that I had free time and was spending it with my family doing things I enjoyed.
I eventually struck a nice balance where I'd still do most of that but also would carve out solid blocks of time for doing hobbies/learning primarily after the family fell asleep, where I might otherwise just be trying to relax some more.
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> I took a breath and realized the reason I had “no free time” was that several days each week, I’d take long walks downtown to enjoy an outdoor brunch with my wife and son. Or we’d host visitors from out of town to meet the baby. I had to remind myself that these were all good things that I liked doing, and I was still in control of my time should I decide to resume working.
When I had my first kid, I'd take her out for walks, or we'd go to the zoo, and then my "free time" (aka time by myself) felt like it was slim to none. As with you, I went through a similar sort of realisation that I had free time and was spending it with my family doing things I enjoyed.
I eventually struck a nice balance where I'd still do most of that but also would carve out solid blocks of time for doing hobbies/learning primarily after the family fell asleep, where I might otherwise just be trying to relax some more.