There's a lot of people that are condescending to others, but they wouldn't see themselves as being an asshole. I see this often in Ham Radio and Electronics.
Their responses are curt, sure, but to them they are not outside the norm of the field.
(1) Never underestimate how strong feelings can have about how a repeater gets used, and (2) those feelings are stronger the less a repeater gets used.
I don't know if the worst example is the folks who got mad because I used to use my HT via the repeater to contact people in Canada 250+ miles away when tropospheric ducts were open
or the guy from the weather service who was mad that nobody on our daily net had information about a localized storm that really scared him because he saw what could have been a tornado on his NEXRAD. I told him, "look, none of us live in that spot and the only way you're going to get more information is if more people think ham radio is a welcoming hobby"
At least that’s interesting. There was an argument on our local net about growing strawberries. A new local ham chipped in and was told to fuck off and mind his own business. This resulted in what I assume was the new guy transmitting duck quacking noises on the same frequency as the net for about two weeks.
HF also requires a harder test, which is basically gatekeeping, I suppose. And a lot of people stick to FT8/FT4 because they can typically make more QSOs then with phone.
You can be an asshole on FT8, but it's harder to do.
Their responses are curt, sure, but to them they are not outside the norm of the field.