Your wife is living vicariously through the kid, in more ways than one.
That’s good - but only to an extent, like you’ve both identified in the past.
They need to seek their own hobbies and interests to fulfill their dopamine needs, and give themselves purpose besides dictating who the kids end up being.
Coming from the other direction: you could reclaim some of that time for the kids (take over pageant time and now that’s when we go to the trampoline place with you).
Don’t let your partner run further away from you! Have a chat and reign this thing in.
That’s good - but only to an extent, like you’ve both identified in the past.
They need to seek their own hobbies and interests to fulfill their dopamine needs, and give themselves purpose besides dictating who the kids end up being.
Coming from the other direction: you could reclaim some of that time for the kids (take over pageant time and now that’s when we go to the trampoline place with you).
Don’t let your partner run further away from you! Have a chat and reign this thing in.
There’s at least one stranger rooting for you.