Sun Tsu said you have to either give your opponent an out or completely destroy them. I’ve always said that you can only skin a sheep once but can shear them over and over. Or to be more blunt, it’s better to be effective than right.
It’s about keeping the bigger/long term goals in mind. That means relationships and being an asshole.
I'd say it's a good sign – at least now you're aware it might be happening. A worse sign would be thinking you're definitely not that sort of personality; you'd be accruing silent resentment from both being loud _and_ clueless.
> If you win every debate, you’re probably accumulating silent resistance.