Yes. I have briefly encountered the real coffee nerds. They are extremely serious and meticulous about their coffee, do actual science, and, I am sad to say, the coffee was better than any coffee I have had before or since.
You will not get coffee that good from a coffee shop, it isn't economically viable. But the technology exists.
They have, kind of. Check out Gaggiuino. Sadly not really open source (Gen3) but you can get a cheap $500 Gaggia Classic and add fine grained control with an Arduino and display: https://gaggiuino.github.io
Then there's the really open source Rancilio PID Clever coffee project: